Let’s face it: trying to adapt to a society built on financial gain and conformity is really hard for some people. For some of us, it is impossible. At least once a day, I read something or hear something which provokes confusion and frustration.
Being “different” or having an altered perception isn’t a good thing, to most. It is understandable that people want to fit in, to belong to something. What happens when you just don’t? Never have? What can a person do when they have explored avenues in life and fail at most of them?
Main Expectations of Life:
– School / indoctrination. (FAIL)
– Money. Wealth. Becoming and staying a consumer for life. (FAIL)
– Traditional relationships. (EPIC FAIL)
– Traditional employment. (FAIL)
– Procreation. (FAIL)
– Do what you’re told, or else. (CATASTROPHIC FAIL)
How to Survive : 10 Practical Tips
DISCIPLINE. Whichever ‘rituals’ you have adopted to relax, clear your mind, concentrate, or focus … are a good thing. This is a way of loving yourself and having respect for yourself. You could jog, meditate, swim, read, etc. Any activity, whether it be mental or physical, will bring you back to a centered place of your own dwelling/ comfort. It is important to remind ourselves that we are capable of controlling our own environments, but it is a state of the conscious mind which (in our current drone-society), is more effective when practiced.
OPEN-MINDEDNESS. It is good to be skeptical. There is nothing wrong with looking at every available fact before forming an opinion (in fact it is better for you, as well as everyone else). Having a mind which allows for child-like wonder, yet experience-based ‘decision-making’ is difficult to keep up …we seem to be driving on auto-pilot most of the time, but look up, look around once in a while!
SENSE OF HUMOUR. Being able to laugh at things, even in the face of pain, sadness, and adversity helps ‘reset’ the emotional imbalances many experience. When times seem hopeless or desperate, try to find the humour in them (there usually is). Example: you lose your wallet. OUCH. Cancelling your credit card(s) and replacing your bank card, drivers licence? Wow. Poor you. It is irritating, I will admit, but does not suggest an end of your world. How did you lose it? Were you wasted out of your mind and fell out of taxi? That is funny. Did you learn your lesson?
EMBRACE LONELINESS. To feel “lonely” is something we all understand. It isn’t surprising when we feel it, is it? We know the feeling, and immediately seek to “fill a void”, but the feeling always comes back. This can happen when a person is in a relationship, single/ dating, busy as hell, whatever. It is the human condition. Constantly trying to fill a void with people, places, and things which offer temporary relief … should be viewed (consciously) as exactly that: temporary sources of fulfillment. Loneliness will always find a way to come back.
LET GO. Dwelling on past mistakes can help us understand our weaknesses, and in a ‘survival’ based way, is useful in any process of emotional and mental growth. It is easy to get stuck in a cycle of self-pity and comfort in victimization (either being the victim or needing to have one). Ask yourself what the need really is. If you find yourself playing a situation over and over in your mind, ask yourself why you might be doing that. The process of healing the emotions is within our control.